Looking for some marriage advice? Leery of marriage counseling tips that don’t really help? Relationships are hard but it can be harder still without the proper roadmap. You need an approach that keeps you on the road to deeper and deeper trust. Whether you are in a marriage or thinking about it before marriage counseling you’re in the right place. This podcast is for men, women, those in love, and those in stress.
That is what you will learn in this podcast.
Ever face challenges in your relationship – especially when it involved being away from each other and the stress and strain that causes? Ever feel like your love was tested? Or your ability to trust your partner? Even when there was no sign of straying?
While anger, sadness and insecurity are common first reactions to a change in your arrangement, pay attention to the love between you and your partner or spouse. The first element to consider ... the thoughts and feelings tied to an anticipated (and assumed) loss. This is a common and natural reaction.
If you are facing a similar challenge, see the time away from each other as fully supporting what your partner needs; stay fully aware of the evidence you have – if there is no sign of straying, there is no sign of straying. If you feel the love, feel the love. If you have a great connection, honor that. Don’t make stuff up that doesn’t exist.
The key then is to stay fully present to your feelings of vulnerability given that you are highly invested in the relationship and highly invested in the relationship continuing. This means you have to recognize that your vulnerability is growth for you; so that the most important element here is to understand that your worry is really about the feelings you would experience if a loss of the relationship occurred. If you keep these ideas in mind, then you can minimize the stress and strain to your relationship and keep your love and trust alive!
Consider failure just an opportunity to learn since you didn’t achieve the outcome you were desired. Yet, when many experience failure, they stop pursuing their dreams and goals because the result wasn’t what they wanted. And they turn the failure at a task into a judgment that, as a person, they are a failure.
Fear of failure and fear of taking risks is really about avoiding or backing away from the feeling outcome (e.g., anger, disappointment, frustration) of things not turning out how you wanted. The key to handling failure, fear of failure and risk-taking is to be able to handle the unpleasant feelings that you might experience as you pursue your goals and dreams.
Do you feel like a burden to others when you do ask for help? Feel vulnerable? Feel like a burden to others when you do? Perhaps you find it very uncomfortable to ask for help, believing that if you make a request of others then you are “asking too much”, that your request is burdensome or that you are a burden. Drawing on your own experience and feelings, as well as a simple military analogy, in today’s podcast you will learn why asking for help, is anything but burdensome for others and instead a compliment.